In my mind’s eye, there is a wooden fence post full of holes. It stands as a monument to the powerful potential of an unchecked tongue. Any relationship worth its salt will generate disagreements. When it comes to love, we are often drawn to a complement rather than a copy, but the very things that…
This might come as a shock to any of you who are still completely starry-eyed about marriage, but no such partnership lives out its life in perfect harmony. You and your spouse will have what I’ll call differences. And even if you got many of those differences out on the table in premarital counseling or…
Note from the Editor: This post has been edited for sensitivity. It originally contained a line that could have been interpreted to suggest that if a woman does not take care of her physical appearance, her husband might be tempted to stray, and that she might be partly responsible because she didn’t make enough effort…
“I think it’s hard because we’re just patch-working trying to make it all work.” The words rolled off my tongue with much-too-much ease as my husband and I labored through our predictable weekly rhythm of figuring out schedules, childcare, meetings, and meals. His subtle response to the obvious as he put away dishes and called…
If you’re a mom, chances are you’ve occasionally felt overwhelmed by all of your responsibilities. And if you have a girlfriend or mentor mom to whom you’ve expressed your fears, it’s likely they’ve said something very much along these lines, “Girl, you need a date night.” Those words, “date night,” might have glimmered like pixie…
On our next anniversary, my husband and I will celebrate thirty years of marriage. As I look back on our lifetime of love, I am astonished to find so many years have passed since two young kids went on their first date. We were only sixteen years old and juniors in high school—who would have…